Happy mind, happy person.

There's none any perfect life exist in the world. The one that only exist is our own way to conquer our life (no matter how sucks it was sometimes).

If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self. -Napoleon Hill

When some people claim their self that they have a perfect life, it doesn't literally mean that everything on their life is perfect and going well. Instead of it, it shows how good they could dealing with the 'unhappy' part of their life and through it well. Having a perfect life or the imperfect one is depend on the way we oversee our mind. If we think further about it, maybe there are some things that we need to remind ourselves :

1. You are not the most unfortunate and suffer person in in the world.

Don't be too excessive, please. World population has reach more than 7.2 billion now days and there's none single one of them have never experienced problems in their life. Everyone does have problems,  its just a choice whether they want to show it on their public life or not. And there are so many people out there who suffering from deathly ill, lost the life of their loved one, facing the cruelty of war, etc, which are have to bear their problems thousand times heavier than yours. So that, encourage yourself to be stronger. I don't say that you are forbidden to cry. When crying could make you feel better, go on. Just remember that you should not be sad for too long, particularly when your sad-me-time starting to evolve into depression phase. Yes, sometimes we feel uneasy with some problems we have, but lets consider it as a challenge that we must going through and keep doing our best to make it solved by the right way.

2. Be grateful on what you already have.

It commonly happens : we got too focus on the hapless problem thing-i, we forgot to count the blessings we already have (not to mention the other case when envy also began to permeate. Grass on the other side of fence is always greener, isn't it? oh yes. That is -mostly- our humankind basic nature. haha). You may have ever heard this proverb : above the sky there's always another sky. If you got what that proverb means, you probably won't mind if i add this : and down below there were so many people who can only dream to stand on the sky you're stepping on right now. What i want to say is we have to always be thankful on what we have, instead of what we don't or should have. Cherish, love and take care things that we belong to. Because once it lost, we may not be able to have it back.

3. Life keeps go on, be steady.

When life comes to you and brings thousand reasons to be cried, welcome it with your warm heart and return it with million reasons to be smiled. I do know real life is not as simple and easy as it looks on that one line. But truthfully, be happy or the otherwise, is a matter of fact which is (unwittingly) a form of our own preferences with the state of our mind. Our mind is the main controller of our emotions, desires and actions. It means when you could control your mind, you will control your emotions, your desires and your actions as well. Try to always be aware of yourself that no matter how severe your problems are or how tough do you feel to pass it through, it won't stop the world from spinning around the sun. Time keeps ticking and life keeps go on. They won't wait for you. Stop yourself from keep being stuck with the same problems, try both to think and do some positive things. Every time your mind start to walk out of your control, remind yourself that you will pass these, just like how you have overcame all your problems in the past. Get your worries away because humans are the creatures of learners. We do learn, we do solve. Everything will eventually be okay in the end.

You need to set a happy mind in order to live happily. Love your life and life will love you back. Do good, Be Good.

Love, CY

Live is a journey and only you who hold your own map

"If you could have one wish, what would it be?
We all have hopes and dreams that we do almost anything to make it real. 
And if we get lucky, and our wish is granted, maybe that’s what we call happiness" -Sakura

That everyone have hopes and dreams, they also have to face the obstacles in the journey on pursuing theirs. One of many obstacles for people pursuing their dreams is that they have a believing that things they hopes and dreams for, won’t work. That it won't be happened. For many cases, it even happens before they start trying to pursue. It is because they’ve already determined that some odds are against them. All of these stuffs can be a bit overwhelming, but yes it does happen in the real life.

We have to realize that there are 3 things we need to have to achieve goals of our dreams. Opportunity, hard work and luck. These three components are relate each other and have to exist in order to accomplishing the goals. Anywhere the opportunity is exist, don't get hesitate to work on it by start over the preparation and do the implementation of the planning well, do it as best as you can. While Luck, happens when hard work meets the opportunity in sinergy.

So what happened in many cases when people have struggling so hard to pursue their dreams but it stand still haven't work yet? Does it means they are failure and have to stop pursuing their dreams? In these terms, there are so many possibilities may have a hand involved in it. It may happen because the opportunity isn't exist yet, or they contemplating the wrong opportunity, setting an improper plan, implementing a strategy which goes too far beyond the basic plan, making a bad decision in unpredictable situation, or any others. Some other reasons may because they still haven't sure yet about what their real dreams were. Nevertheless, don't make your self too rush judging all things has happened as a grave of your dreams. You don't know how far or how close you are to your goal at that time. As long as the opportunity is still there, sometimes it is okay to turn left, to turn right or even to turn around, finding another way to going thru to meet your goal. Remember that the road does not always run just straight.

Do not see failure or success as the only end goal when it comes about pursuing your dreams. In the real life, many people falls into a gray area and dream-chasing is no exception. View life as a big maps of your journey where what happens along the way is just as important as reaching the end goal. You would receive lot of experiences which u can learn. You may also developed some great skills on your way going thru the journey. It is a good chance for yourself to grow and going mature; and it’s very life-affirming.  

Pursuing the dreams can take a lot of courage and dedication to do. All the experiences we get along the journey will make every bits of the effort we put into it worthwhile. That's why for every opportunity is wide open, why don't we try to pursue our dreams? – no matter what. 

Love, CY

There's no guidebook you can use to understand love except experience it yourself

" I've discovered, liking someone isn't hard. But loving someone and keeping that love, I still haven't learned it. " - JJ LIN

學不會 (Song by JJ Lin)

XUE BU HUI  | NEVER LEARN

你的痛苦 我都心疼, 想为你解决 | nǐ de tòng kǔ wǒ dōu xīn téng, xiǎng wéi nǐ jiě jué
I am distressed by your pain, want to settle it for you

挡开流言, 紧握你手, 想飞奔往前 | dǎng kāi liú yán jǐn wò nǐ shǒu, xiǎng fēi bēn wǎng qián
want to make the rumours dissapear, hold your hand tightly and run swiftly forward

我相信爱 能证明一切, 够真心 会超越时间 | wǒ xiāng xìn ài néng zhèng míng yī qiē, gòu zhēn xīn huì chāo yuè shí jiān
i believe love can prove everything, with enough sincerity it will surpass time

多付出 也多了喜悦, 让幸福蔓延 | duō fù chū yě duō le xǐ yuè, ràng xìng fú màn yán
even though it will sacrifice more, it's also will gain more joy, let the happiness spread

总是学不会 再聪明一点, 记得自我保护 | zǒng shì xué bù huì zài cōng míng yī diǎn,jì de zì wǒ bǎo hù 
 always have never learned to be a little cleverer, to remember to protect myself

必要时候讲些 善意谎言 | bì yào shí hòu jiǎng xiē shàn yì huǎng yán
when it's needed, i will tell some good intentioned lies

总是学不会 真爱也有现实面 | zǒng shì xué bù huì zhēn ài yě yǒu xiàn shí miàn
always have never learned that true love has a realistic side

不是谁情愿 就能够解决 | bú shì shéi qíng yuàn jiù néng gòu jiě jué
it’s not about who’s willing, as if this will solve problems

一次争吵 一个心结 累积着改变 | yī cì zhēng chǎo yī gè xīn jié lèi jī zhe gǎi biàn
a quarrel, a knot in the heart, it’s like changes in life are being accumulated

内心疏远 足够秒杀 外 表多浓烈 | nèi xīn shū yuǎn zú gòu miǎo shā wài biǎo duō nóng liè
hearts are drifting apart, enough to instantly kill, even though how strong it appears to be

才发现爱 不代表一切,  再真心 也会被阻绝 | cái fā xiàn ài bù dài biǎo yī qiē, zài zhēn xīn yě huì bèi zǔ jué
 only realize that love is not represent everything, even with the most sincerity it can still being rejected

这世界 天天有诡雷, 随时会爆裂 | zhè shì jiè tiān tiān yǒu guǐ léi, suí shí huì bào liè 
 today's world has bombs everyday that can at anytime explode

还是学不会 少浪漫一点 | hái shì xué bù huì shǎo làng màn yī diǎn
still have not learned to be less romantic

拼命着想的事, 未必带来感动 或被感谢 | pīn mìng zhuó xiǎng de shì, wèi bì dài lái gǎn dòng huò bèi gǎn xiè 
 even doing at most in thinking considerately, may not make someone being touched or being appreciated

还是学不会 解释我最伤 | hái shì xué bù huì jiě shì wǒ zuì shāng
still haven’t learned to explain that i'm hurt damn much

最累痛死都不愿 怪谁 | zuì lèi tòng sǐ dōu bù yuàn guài shéi
even if i'm in most tired, most hurt to death, i'm unwilling to blame others

把每段痴情苦恋 在此刻排列面前, 也感觉 不埋怨, 只怀念 | bǎ měi duàn chī qíng kǔ liàn zài cǐ kè pái liè miàn qián, yě gǎn jué bù mán yuàn
 will place every sorrowful of love in front of me and will not complain, just will miss it

总是学不会 再聪明一点,  记得自我保护 | zǒng shì xué bù huì zài cōng míng yī diǎn, jì de zì wǒ bǎo hù  
always have never learned to be a little cleverer to remember to protect myself

必要时候讲些 善意谎言 | bì yào shí hòu jiǎng xiē shàn yì huǎng yán
when it's needed, i will tell some good intentioned lies

不是学不会 只是觉得爱 太美 | bú shì xué bù huì zhī shì jué de ài tài měi
it’s not that I never learn, it's just I feel that love is too beautiful

值得去沉醉 流泪 | zhí de qù chén zuì liú lèi
it’s worth to be immersed in it, to shed tears for it

~♥~

Love teach us that it's not just about gazing and completing each other, but also about looking forward in the same direction.

Love, CY